Are Women Who Wear Makeup Viewed As Less Intellient

"You're ugly," said the little daughter as she stared me down in an elevator. "Excuse you lot," her mother exclaimed with a mix of horror and embarrassment.

The mother began to apologise profusely, to which I simply shrugged and smiled. "That's ok," I said equally the elevator doors opened and I exited in my wheelchair.

Meh! That was nothing and I've certainly heard far worse over the years. Also, she was a child and anything 'different' e'er provoked curiosity in children (and a piffling unfiltered commentary).

If I'd had more time I would have said what I often say to children who question my physical appearance and use words like ugly, gross or weird. I explain that it's but the manner I am. I might await dissimilar from other people but that doesn't brand it a bad thing.

In many means, yet, she was correct - the young girl. By conventional standards, I am ugly. By conventional definitions of dazzler, my imperfect body is littered with "ugly flaws" (to quote a recent television advertisment). But as I've said before in this weblog for Huffington Postal service Women, screw convention!

So this (in a higher place) is me. Proudly imperfect at a recent photoshoot. Where many women would flaunt cleavage and flawless décolletage, I'm sporting scars from a number of procedures, including open up heart surgery and a trachea ventilation tube that allowed a machine to breathe for me when I was in a coma.

I've also got implants in my chest. No, non those ones! A metal plate, wires and screws holding my sternum together.

I'm the first to admit that these scars on my chest and neck are minor compared to many other scars and amputations on the residue of my body. They are also minor compared to those of many cute women around the world with prominent scars from tragedy.

The scars on my chest have dramatically faded over the years (and the lighting on our photoshoot washed them out as well). But that wasn't the case a couple of years agone when I came out of infirmary after surgery. I was getting married in just over six months and didn't want the inflamed red gash on my chest to be seen.

Similarly, every bit a pimply faced teenager with braces, I was embarrassed by my acne scars and would never have permit someone photograph them.

Today I don't care who sees my badges from battle. I article of clothing my scars with pride. They make me who I am and each 1 tells a story.

So what practise you think makes a woman unattractive? Her blemished peel? Messy hair? Unfashionable clothes? Nope, none of that - and the reply might surprise you.

I had a very interesting conversation with a makeup creative person at a contempo photoshoot.

This very experienced makeup artist had been in the industry for years and her makeup brushes had swept across the faces of women around the earth. She'd seen a diversity of female forms, including supermodels, Brides and the 'everyday' woman (like me!).

As a makeup artist, she'd seen countless physical flaws and imperfections. Except that these women weren't flawed or imperfect - just dissimilar from the cookie-cutter mannequins. Every bit I'd wanted to tell the immature girl in the elevator, just because someone looks different, doesn't make it a bad thing.

Above: Some other photoshoot #perfectlyimperfect - Disability isn't every bit common in pop culture as it is in gild.

Over the years, this makeup artist had been called upon to erase all evidence of ugly, concrete flaws. On numerous occasions, she'd been asked to apply extra concealer to scars, blemishes and uneven pare tones. Non a problem!

Yet at that place were some women who she couldn't help with makeup.

Those really unattractive women whose ugliness couldn't be concealed with an extra coat of mascara or blush.

The world's nearly unattractive women all had 1 thing in common. They all had an ugly attitude.

Selfishness looks disgusting, bitterness looks repulsive and there is nothing beautiful or sexy about a lack of cocky-respect.

Nosotros all have ugly days!

I daresay we've all been guilty of unattractive behaviour. Exist it on social media or out in the real world. I'm not perfect and I'll admit that I've had ugly outbursts. I looked horrendous the other week merely information technology had null to do with my missing leg, that pimple or bad hair. I was simply being a cranky lilliputian b*tch!

My friends know they tin can come to me and vent to get all that ugliness out of their system and they've done the aforementioned for me. Only at that place's a big deviation between beingness a cranky cow over java and permanently entrenched, ugly behaviour.

What the research says

Once I got dwelling house from the photoshoot I wanted to explore the topic further. What did the rest of the online earth think ugly women looked like?

Dr Robert Tornambe is a New York plastic surgeon and Author of the bestselling book, The Beauty Quotient. During his 25-year career as a plastic surgeon, he has worked with thousands of women and spent endless hours contemplating definitions of dazzler.

In support of what my makeup creative person and I had observed, Dr Tornambe says that while physical traits do play a role in beauty, what makes whatever woman truly attractive is based largely on confidence, charisma and personality.

If you thought a saying like "a cute personality is what counts" was just a tired cliché, think again. In an article about how your mental attitude tin can make you appear more or less physically attractive, Psychology Today cited a number of studies where the conclusion was that a bad attitude tin make you appear less attractive.

Another study found narcissism, bigotry and a lack of bulldoze or ambition to rank in the Your Tango Tiptop-ten list of the traits men found most unattractive in a adult female. In another article, intelligence and wearing LESS makeup were 2 ways that a woman could appear more attractive.

So when information technology comes to beauty, the bottom line is, well... it'due south not near your bottom. Or your hair, your weight, your skin, your scars or the label on your bag. In fact, spending besides much fourth dimension obsessing over these things can have quite the contrary effect.

It's time to roar! Conviction is gorgeous and courage is scenic. What do you think is an incredibly beautiful or sexy personality trait?

Love life,

Lisa xx

Source: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/a-makeup-artist-reveals-w_b_9853504

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